Having the support of a loving partner before, during and after gender transition can be incredibly important for many trans folks.
Amongst many other things, partners may provide emotional support when it’s needed, be a caregiver during surgery preparation and recovery, and advocate when rights and needs are not being recognized.
If you are partnered with a trans person (whether or not you are trans yourself), at some point you may want to reach out to meet other partners of trans folks, get further education and get support for yourself. Gender transition can cause a big shift in a romantic relationship; the world around you may begin to perceive your partnership differently and you may begin to perceive yourself differently as well.
One of the best ways to support your relationship is to find support for yourself in whatever ways you can. Below some resources that may be helpful as you navigate relationships with and as a trans person. Partners and spouses can also reach out to the Care Coordination Team at Trans Care BC and find peer support services in their area through the Peer Support Directory.
- Trans People in Love. Tracie O’Keefe and Katrina Fox. Taylor & Francis, 2008.
- Welcoming our Trans Family and Friends: A Support Guide for Parents, Families and Friends of Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming People. PFLAG.
These books are aimed for children of a trans parent.
- Carly: She’s Still My Daddy. Mary Boenke (The Transgender Network of PFLAG).
- Families Are Like Ice Cream Flavors. Erin George (CreateSpace).
- Little Boy. E. Kelly & E. Webster (FTM Australia).
- My Mommy is a Box. Jason Martinez (Self Published).
- My New Daddy. Lilly Mossiano (Spun Silver).
- My New Mommy. Lilly Mossiano (Publish America)
- PFLAG Canada (Vancouver) – provides support for parents, friends and families of their gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and queer loved ones